Friday, March 20, 2009

The Luck O' The Irish

What a week! I am still in awe over how everything came together. Join me for a recap?

Monday night Sean & I decided that if that tax return did not arrive before full flow, we were going to wait until next month. I felt mostly at peace with that decision, but I think we were both holding out hope that the tax return would surprise us.

Tuesday was St. Patrick's Day, a high holy day in our household, and I called my in-laws to wish them well and double check my corned beef & cabbage and champ recipes. Rita was asking me if we had started our FET yet & I explained the whole situation. She then floored me by offering to lend us the money! She said we had waited long enough and that she knew we were sick & tired of the entire process and said that she would love to help us. I graciously thanked her and said I would discuss it with Sean. He was shocked. With 5 kids and 11 grandchildren, Sean's parents have kind of made it their rule not to lend money or be overly generous as it is hard to do for one and not do for all and they just aren't in a position to "do for all." They are amazing, kind, caring people and they would do anything for any of us, they just aren't financially secure enough to subsidize all of us, not should they. Needless to say, you could have knocked us over with a feather.

After discussing it, Sean decided he would like to take his parents up on their offer, but we weren't sure if they knew how much we needed or if they could cover it. Sean called them on Wednesday morning and they were indeed shocked by the amount and said they couldn't swing the whole thing, but would give us what they could. We graciously thanked them, but said we would just proceed with the original plan to wait it out. Again, we were disappointed, but not devastated and still holding out for the tax return. Full flow had held off too, so maybe it would all work out.

Sean's Dad called him back a few hours later to tell him that after checking into things, he found a CD that they had squirreled away some money into awhile go. Amazingly, the CD was going to be expiring in just 2 days, March 20, 2009, and he had to make a decision about what to do with it by the end of the week. It just happened to be EXACTLY the amount we needed and they wanted to extend their offer once again! We were excited, but we knew it could take a few days to transfer funds, we didn't know how much longer full flow would hold out and we had no idea if our clinic would allow us a few days of leeway.

I called my nurse ASAP and explained and she said that she was fine with us starting Estrace and paying later, but ultimately, the billing office had the final say. The billing office and I played phone tag all day Weds and we never caught up. I remained cautiously optimistic. Miraculously, no full flow yet!

First thing yesterday, I spoke to the billing office and explained everything to them and they agreed to let me begin my Estrace on CD 1 and pay them when ever my in laws were able to access the funds. They said they were really rooting for us and really wanted to extend the favor and were happy to do it. I was over the moon! She transferred me back to the nurse, I received all my instructions and she reminded me to call back with full flow to make it official.

I hopped in the shower and when I got out, full flow had arrived! I called the nurse back and she had me come right in for blood work to recheck my prolactin and pick up me FET calendar. None of us could believe how well everything was working out!

So, it's official - FET #1 is under way! I started Estrace last night, my lining check is scheduled for April 1st and the clinic told me to keep the first week of April clear for transfer. I can't believe it all worked out!

Turns out my in-laws were given cash so Sean was able to pay the clinic in full today. I was nearly in tears when I called my mother-in-law to thank her for the 100th time. She is so happy and proud to have done it. Turns out, she was saving it to give to the funeral home to prepay on her funeral! She said this is a much nicer way to use the money and hopes it turns out to bring life instead of pay for death. We will pay them back ASAP, so she will have her funeral money after all, but she said she'd rather spend it on the baby :)

I find myself so damn full of hope again. What the hell happened to me? I think watching this cycle fall into place the way it did, got me all emotional and thinking about how this could be "meant to be" this time. I know, I know, I am getting wayyyyyyy ahead of myself here!

Speaking of way ahead of myself, I was early for our movie date last night, so I was browsing the pregnancy/infant aisle of the book store. I even sneaked a peek at a baby name book. I even announced to Sean that I was officially "one day pregnant". I am OUT OF CONTROL, but it is so fun and liberating and it feels so damn good to hope...

2 days pregnant and counting!

25 comments:

Sticks and Stims said...

Oh Emily, that is great!!! What a great story and I hope you will be able to tell it to your little one!

Enjoy it - read the books, look at names, have fun. We spend so much time stressing that we need to enjoy those moments of hope.

I have it all crossed for you!!

Kristen said...

What a wonderful way to start this cycle!!!! Family can be so amazing sometimes...and Sean's parents certainly are amazing for helping you out!

Congrats on getting this round started!!!!!

sunflowerchilde said...

I loved reading your post today, it was so upbeat and happy. I'm wishing the absolute best for you this time around. The first week in April is not so far away!

Carrie said...

YAY! What generous people your in-laws are. I am so happy you are on your way to FET! I had my transfer today and your hopeful post was just the thing to make me stop worrying! :)

Carrie

Just Another Infertile said...

Wow! Things really did fall into place. Your in-laws sound amazing. A lot like my parents actually.

Hope is a wonderful thing. GOOD LUCK! I'll be following. . .

ashley said...

You're too sweet. Everything's just falling into place beautifully. Congrats!!!

Andrea said...

I am so happy for you!!! Good luck!!

momsoon said...

Yeahhhh!!! that is a great post!!!
That is how things def have been for us this cycle and you and R (us) won't be too far apart (like a day i think!!!!!!!)
I will pray that things keep unfolding the way they have...can't wait to follow you along, cheering and (not)obsessing!

Just me said...

I'm glad everything has fallen into place so well! It sucks to have to worry about the financial piece- as if IF isn't hard enough!

Keeping my fingers and toes crossed for you this cycle!!!!

Jill said...

That is just amazing! I am so happy that you are able to move forward! Lots of luck, good vibes, prayers, fingers crossed, etc. etc. :)

wasted egg said...

Yay!! CD1!! I'm looking forward to your BFP!!!

kayjay said...

I am so amazed with how things fell into place for you and this must be a good omen for things to come! GL with the FET!!

Jill said...

I just love the timing of all of this! Can't wait for this to be your lucky cycle, too!!

Lost in Space said...

I love looking for "signs" and the way this all played out seems like an incredible one too hard to ignore!

Hoping all good things for you this round!!

Lisa said...

What a wonderful turn out, I am so glad that everything worked out for you guys. I truly do beleive that everything happens for a reason.

I wish you all the luck in the world with your FET!!

WaterBishop said...

That is so very sweet. Makes me feel all warm and fuzzy.

musicmakermomma said...

Beautiful story - I am hoping for you so hard that this works! Sorry I haven't commented in a while, but I have been lurking about. Take care!

Xillary said...

So glad you don't have to wait and hoping to hear good news soon!

bunny said...

I am so happy for you! What a great way to kick off this cycle and hearing your story made me feel more hopeful too, so thank you!

Lisa said...

Oh, Em, I take a couple of days off to move and miss such exciting news!! I'm elated to read that you're starting!! Maybe, when we finally get together, we'll send the boys gambling because we'll be struggling with out morning sickness! Maybe....

Phoebe said...

I love when things happen like that. I'll be a little ahead of you in my FET, which is Tuesday. Yay for starting your meds!

the Centurino Family said...

I think sometimes there are signs. I hope and pray that these are all signs that someone is working some magic for you upstairs. Sending prayers, sticky dust, and all the other dust you need. I love you and hope this is it. What a great post....

MissMVK said...

Hooray! And I love your great outlook. This is going to be a great cycle for you, I just know it. Can't wait to hear all about it.

mylifechronicles said...

That is such a wonderful story. It was so nice of your in-laws to do that. I am so happy that you are upbeat abt the whole thing. I think it helps having a positive attitude during these times. Oh BTW, I just realized that we are cycle buddies. My transfer date should be sometime in the first week of April too. This is so exciting.. isn't it? :)

Leslie Laine said...

Emily - I'm so excited to read this post - maybe it's the hormones, but the generosity of your in-laws really brought tears to my eyes. It's so wonderful to have such loving, caring family throughout this crazy process.

Know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. I'm so hoping that this is YOUR cycle!!